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Life Purpose: How “If You Build It They Will Come” Ruins Dreams

Life Purpose: How “If You Build It They Will Come” Ruins Dreams

Life Purpose: How “If You Build It They Will Come” Ruins Dreams

Here’s the thing about discovering your life’s purpose. When you feel this strong, intense, all consuming feeling that you need to bring a creation into the world, or follow a specific path, that doesn’t mean that you CREATE it and the universe then GETS IT OUT INTO THE WORLD.

I really thought it did mean that though.

Being an Intuitive or a Visionary isn’t enough! I KNOW this first hand.

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I had a “calling”. I threw myself into it and I created beautiful, meaningful and what-felt-like-divinely-inspired content.

I felt completely aligned with my life’s purpose, like I was tapped into what I’m here on this planet to do – and it went NOWHERE.

People didn’t understand what I was doing. They didn’t understand what I could offer them or how I could help them (and I felt so strongly that I COULD help!).

It felt frustrating and painful and all the while I was remembering the phrase “If you build it they will come” and wondering why I had built it, labored over it, passionately supported it, invested in it, invested in myself, healed my shadows and they not only weren’t coming, it felt like no one understood me or what I was about.

It was frustrating to say the least.

I learned this lesson the hard way and have seen and commiserated with countless others of you about this same thing.

Which is why I want to tell you the idea “If you build it they will come” has really messed us all up when it comes to stepping into our life’s purpose.

It’s really, “If you build it, you’d better be able to clearly market it” or no one will ever see it.

The universe gives you the inspiration – the rest is up to you!

the universe gives you the inspiration the rest is up to you

The fact of the matter is, if people don’t know why you are saying something, how you can help them, or what you are talking about… they just won’t get it.

And if they don’t get it, they don’t sign up for your membership, your digital programs, or your services.

Or, if they’re buying your services and now you’re ready to go scale your business (upleveling, woot woot!) but you can’t clearly explain that – same thing.

It’s like screaming into a crowd at a rock concert and no one can hear you. You’re around people, but your words reach no one!

There is hope in this though. It means, the universe gave you a message, service, or creation to deliver into the world, and the next step is to commit to this gift and get it out there come hell or high water, as they say.

YOU, need to be the one to bring it into the physical world and get it to its soul mate audience who are praying for the solutions YOU have.

YOU.

What I’ve discovered is that our life purpose often provides the most growth in this uncomfortable phase of aligning to it and making it happen!

As lightworkers, energy healers, intuitives, and spiritual people, we tend to spend so much time on Inner Work (What’s blocking us? What is our mindset? Why isn’t this manifesting?) that we forget about the good old fashioned grind in our business.

 

Mentors, energy healing, spiritual growth – it’s all worthwhile and good, don’t get me wrong.

Time on your own personal development is ALWAYS time well spent as is time spent on your personal growth.

BUT, what I am saying is if you expect the personal growth and the inner work to carry you across the finish line, it’s going to be a long and frustrating road for you.

If you take on any business that is entrepreneurial in nature, you need to be able to execute your vision and market.

Bottom line.

You can’t sit spinning your wheels as to why your business isn’t growing if you haven’t been marketing, watching for the return on your invested time and money, and monitoring it the way you would a speedometer on the dashboard of your car.

When you push the gas, you reach a certain speed. You can see it.

Being on entrepreneur is the same thing.

If you host a webinar and no one shows up, it doesn’t mean you aren’t amazing. It just means maybe they didn’t understand who you were, what your message is or it didn’t reach enough people.

It’s data and then you need to readjust.

Your life purpose might be separate from being an entrepreneur, but most of us who are taking a spiritual path HATE WORKING FOR OTHER PEOPLE.

True story. Pursuing your life purpose is usually intertwined with owning your own business.

If you have any kind of online product, service or business, the reality is that you must embrace Digital Marketing.

Because creation happens so much in our feminine side, it is very tricky to then just switch to the masculine (action) without it feeling “icky.” You don’t want to feel salesy, or pushy, or constantly berating people over the head with your products and services.

And believe me, you can find thousands of aggressive marketing digital and live courses to keep you busy for eons about this exact thing.

I’ve watched countless videos, taken courses, read the books, listened to the podcasts and I can tell you that there is one program that has helped me more than any other.

The reason I love it is because it values TIME.

Not just TIME, but “EXTRA TIME.”

This “extra time” is your self-care. Your family fun. Your time with your kids, your brunch with your girlfriends, your trip the spa for a facial, or your daily meditation practice (or unexpected homeschooling due to Covid-19!).

The “extra” that I would argue is where the divine inspiration and creative ideas come from.

So it’s not really “extra” which is why I love this program so much.

Best of all, it doesn’t have a crazy price tag.

I’m talking about the Boss Mom NURTURE TO CONVERT SOCIETY.

This society is truly that – a society. It has video courses with actual videos on how to create valuable content starting with your easy wins (do NOT skip the “Create your Easy Yes video” – it’s a game changer!).

You see, it’s centered around being clear about your message and showing up – but with automation so that you can handle a crisis when your kid gets sick for a week, summer vacation starts and your productivity time goes out the window, or the day when it’s gloomy out and you just feel like sitting on the couch binging Netflix shows…

Knowing how to set up your digital marketing and your email funnel FORCES  you to really sit down and figure our your consistent message.

authentic consistency is the key to growth

Authentic consistency is the key to growth.

Best of all, you get access to a FB community to run ideas by. To be able to say, “I’m thinking about these three offers, which one catches your attention?” and get feedback is invaluable!

Plus, a community to be able say, “I’m having a shit day with my business and I could use a little support.”

It’s “all the things”, as they say.

Shockingly, it’s affordable. For $47 per month you get access to all the learning, courses, and templates you can dream of… plus the community. You get to learn and apply at your own pace and begin freeing yourself up to get the EXTRAS in life, and you can cancel at any time.

Dana explains things in a way that I just wasn’t getting before. It wasn’t making sense and it wasn’t for a lack of effort!

The most valuable courses are the ones you can understand and begin applying right away.

The cherry on top is that Dana Malstaff is a Boss Mom herself (she created it!) and values time. So she isn’t going to tell you to spend countless hours on everything. INSTEAD, she is going to tell you how to get really strategic and specific so that you can come up with a really good system that works and then scale it.

Foundation.

But don’t just take my word for it! Check out the group to see what others are saying and decide for yourself.

NURTURE TO CONVERT SOCIETY

I really hope my fellow intuitives and visionaries get this because it took me 9 years of what became an expensive hobby before I understood that it was up to me to get my content into the world AND into the right hands.

It was never just about the money. But if we can’t make money that keeps us high vibe where we can create at our best, it lowers our vibe to where we end up both not creating and not making a profit.

Which is NOT where you want to be!

Check out the Nurture to Convert Society HERE.

You’ll learn how to stay connected to the people who opt in to your email list and not just get them there and drop ‘em like they’re hot.

The people who really get this and understand it are the ones who are making the money and working less hours!

Which is a great goal and a small investment of both time and money to get you there.

You are spending the time, but are you spending it in the right places?

NURTURE TO CONVERT SOCIETY

Believe me, I was so immediately impressed by the Nurture to Convert Society that I asked to be an affiliate right away because I was telling everyone about it.

But back to your life purpose for a sec.

If you are answering a calling, devoting time to your life’s purpose and it feels you are building it but they are not coming, this is the information that is incredibly helpful, told in a heartfelt way.

It’s up to you to get your message out into the world. It’s a BIG part of the journey that cannot be skipped.

Digital marketing is critical if you are going to be heard in a crowded Internet space. C-R-I-T-I-C-A-L.

I feel very lucky to have found the NURTURE TO CONVERT SOCIETY to get the missing pieces of getting my message into the world and having people actually understand me and connect to me.

I hope to see you in there!

XOXO,

nicole strychaz

P.S. It truly is nurturing content so you are connecting to your soul mate audience, not just trying to get a sale, but getting your useful content in the hands of the people who will actually use it! This toolkit is truly merging the “action” with your creations so YOU get it into the world.

P.P.S. If you do sign up let me know! I can welcome you in the group.

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How to manage your energy during other people’s fear and panic.

How to manage your energy during other people’s fear and panic.

Not freaking out when people are panicking around you is a good thing. Except, you need to know this to keep them from STEALING your calm.

It’s no secret to you that we’re in unprecedented times and people around you may be freaking the f out!

But you’ve been training for this. For years if not lifetimes.

This is where all your curiosity about meditation, being grounded, taking salt baths, managing your energy – this is where all that comes into play.

Many of you are being called to step up and “lead by example”. Can you feel that?

Even if it’s you staying in your house and NOT freaking out, that is leading by example.

You may notice more people going live and talking about how to manage your energy and stay grounded, this is because so many of us have had this strong passion to learn about energy the past 9 years or so and now EVERY. SINGLE. TOOL. is needed and we’re feeling called to share and channel what we are receiving.

Today though, I want to talk for a minute about going out into public with the strong energy of panic and pandemonium so prevalent.

Because you know how to calm your energy, be the calm in the storm, people’s energy wants to rise up to yours and cling to you.

Entrainment is what it’s called and you need to be aware of it and how to seal off your energy BEFORE you enter public spaces so that you don’t come out with your heart pounding, feeling low energy like you need to curl up in bed with the covers over your head – having no idea why.

This is being empathic, but a step further.

Knowing when you are allowing people to entrain to you, such as your live videos that you then cut the cords to so you’re not still attached, or family members, clients or students, is different than in the midst of a sea of people who are not doing their own soul searching (like the Costco toilet paper line!).

We are all expected to create our own relationship UP. Find the light by going inside and then connecting up. So you’re not supposed to just connect to other people as a light source SO you don’t want to be that light source for other random people.

You want to be the lighthouse, shining brightly but without boats glued to your sides!

I recorded this video on FB live to discuss it so you can take a listen.

Stay grounded you guys. It’s going to be the key to a rocky 2020! 2020 isn’t going to be all crazy, but it’s moving faster than we’ve felt before. You may notice your manifestations are much quicker than they used to be and being really mindful of what you want to experience, and what you don’t want to experience is important.

Let me know some of your tried and true energy management tips in the comments too! We need to be sharing these NOW as much as we can. Pooling our knowledge, if you will.

XOXO,

nicole strychaz

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Heal the Energy Keeping You in the Shadows. Isn’t it Time?

Heal the Energy Keeping You in the Shadows. Isn’t it Time?

Heal the Energy Keeping You in the Shadows. Isn’t it Time?

You work hard. You spend time making your words authentic, supporting the vulnerability of sharing them. You take a deep breath and put it out into the world…

AND

Crickets.

It doesn’t go viral. It doesn’t get the big reaction you expected, the little one, or any reaction at all perhaps other than your family and friends telling you it was well written.

Why isn’t it seen?

Yes, there are some ways to write to make it stand out more.

Yes, there are some SEO tools you can use and should use to have it be indexed by google.

But there is something else to consider.

Are you TRULY ready to be SEEN? Are you ready to come out of the shadows and claim your space?

Are you ready to heal the indifference plaguing your beautiful work and interfering with your momentum to move forward?

Indifference, silence, when your heart is so invested in what you are doing is so deflating.

What if there is a part of you who knows?

What if there is a way to heal the energy, the parts that do not want to be seen, and who do not feel SAFE to be seen?

There is.

And it comes from within.

Your feminine archetypes represent four, powerful energies within us all who have messages for you. Powerful messages to help you heal the energy holding you back.

Women have been held back for eons, not taken seriously, hospitalized for being “too emotional” in fact…

It’s no wonder we pause before we speak. Think too long before we act. And put our words timidly out there, often times second guessing them and taking them down.

Social media is a tricky playground, full of commenters, I’m not going to lie (See: I Got My First Hater and It Made Me Smile All Day).

But, standing in your power is always better than NOT sharing your voice.

Those words are coming to you for a reason. They are YOURS to share.

Isn’t it time to heal the energy keeping you from being seen?

Being invisible is nothing short of frustrating and an energy drain.

Being seen, taking the time to succeed, taking the time to fail and say “Well, at least I learned something”… that’s taking a risk and LIVING life.

As Abraham Hicks says, “Milk every moment for all the pleasure you can get from it.” That means ALL OF IT. The good, the bad, the amazing – it’s what showing up is about!

I’ve created a guided soul journey meditation to support these feelings of being Safe to be Seen.

Take me to it!

This guided meditation will take you on a soul journey to the White Springs in Glastonbury England where you will meet your Maiden, Mother, Wild/Wise Woman and Crone and receive their words of wisdom. Each time you do the meditation the message will be different based on your current circumstances. You can come to the meditation with questions or simply listen to the meditative soul journey and see what energy magic occurs.

 

Key “tools” of this meditative journey:

~ You will clear your energy before meeting your feminine archetypes – so the info isn’t cloudy.

~ Includes a way to remain rooted as you journey forth.

~ Allow yourself to feel the White Springs as they are described to you in detail.

~ Write down any energy healing messages you receive following the soul journey and refer back to it as a reference.

 

It’s time for us to be seen AND heard.

We have important messages to share. We’re often called to share them and it would be a shame to keep them hidden in the shadows.

What does it look like if your messages go undelivered? Unread? Unnoticed?

Probably sad, right?

What does it look like when they are heard? When the intended recipient emails you and says, “Oh my God, it was like you were talking right to me.” Well, those are the magic moments…

Healing the energy holding you back is a beautiful step on a continuous ladder toward really showing up for your intuitive gifts.

 

Your gifts deserve to be utilized and shared.

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Take me to it!

I look forward to seeing your light shine even brighter.

XOXO,

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If You Hide Your Psychic Gifts, Will They Explode out of You?

If You Hide Your Psychic Gifts, Will They Explode out of You?

If You Hide Your Psychic Gifts, Will They Explode out of You?

There is an energy of shame to using our gifts and a fear of abusing our power that is prevalent in our society…especially among women.

Historically, and currently, woman have been physically silenced or completely dismissed as not as knowledgeable, too emotional, or not “our place.” It is sadly not uncommon and is a HUGE part of our history that is often casually written in one liners or we are omitted completely.

It’s time for fear and shame around our gifts and our power to be healed.

It wasn’t always safe to share and there may have been times you abused your power in this lifetime or others…but you were learning, like Elsa in the Disney animation Frozen (yes I watched it recently in anticipation of Frozen 2).

You were learning how to balance your gifts with the current life you found yourself in and that’s okay.

Elsa’s story is actually such a good parable for what happens when we try to conceal our powers and hide them rather than learn to use them. When Elsa is playfully using her gifts as a child, she hurts her sister accidentally. Rather than teach her balance (or how to heal with her powers), her parents teach her shame by hiding her away for fear she will hurt someone telling her “conceal don’t feel.” Eventually, she loses “her cool” one day and freezes her town and creates an ice palace when she decides she can’t hold it in anymore… she has to “Let it Go.” In the end (spoiler alert!), she learns to balance her gifts with love.

Elsa learns to use her gifts for the better of the whole, not hide them.

It’s a cartoon, I know, but these are often metaphors for life and I believe this is the perfect metaphor for psychic gifts and how quick we are to hide them. Or whisperedly tell someone that we are actually intuitive, can see spirits, get premonitions that are helpful, are closet energy healers and so much more!

It’s usually not the actual gift we fear, if we’re being honest, the gifts come so naturally. We fear what people will say. Will they accept us? Will we be ostracized? What will my neighbors, friends and family think? Even, who can I TRUST with this information?

And, we can often fear our power. That’s what Elsa and her parents feared, her power, not her gift.

When I find myself wondering, “How powerful are we really?” That my friends, feels scarier than being powerless.

There was a time when villages had teachers and spiritual mentors at the ready to help us develop our talents and it was expected that we would use the “psychic tools” we came into this life with – after all, we chose them for a reason!

I firmly believe, Intuitive Writing is one of those gifts. It has the power to heal, even by releasing your thoughts onto paper. It has the power to connect you to people who are your tribe. It has the power to lift and inspire, based on what you are writing. It can bring laughter to someone’s day, feelings of not being alone to someone who’s feeling lonely or strange… it’s definitely not to be ignored and hidden away in another room of the house.

Yet, it is scary to say out loud. I was fearful of it for many years and stuffed it down any chance I got.

And I’m here to say that ignoring your gifts and being fearful to use them doesn’t work well and isn’t very fulfilling. Your life often feels stuck and like something big is missing. An incompleteness AND pull to use them that is hard to deny.

Learning to allow and trust my gifts has been much more healing, beneficial, and just overall made my life easier.

We all need to learn to “Let it Go,” in a way that isn’t pent up until we reach a boiling point and metaphorically freeze a town.

Or worse, let ourselves be a smaller version of ourselves than we know we can be. Because truly that’s what usually happens. We become a lesser version of ourselves, lose touch with healthy rebellion, wild abandon, feeling all the feels… instead of being TOO MUCH, we become TOO LITTLE. Until a small handful of people truly know us, if that.

Incorporating our gifts into our life in a way that is useful, helpful, HEARD, shared, inspiring… doesn’t that sound so much nicer? So much more fulfilling?

It’s time to heal shame and fear around using our gifts.

If we deny our power, we can’t create positive change in the world. WE can’t be the version of our self who is empowered and who she came here to be!

And our world badly needs you to be able to show up in your life as your balanced, whole, and powerful self.

We are the way NOW.

It starts one baby step at a time.

One admission that we have power inside us, at a time.

One exploration of our gifts and how we want to use them, at a time.

One insight from our higher wisdom, writing it down, at a time.

Turning on one light at a time in a strand of lights inside you.

Isn’t it time to heal the shame and fear around using our gifts? Hasn’t it been long enough that we’ve been denying ourselves an easier way, looking for answers externally rather than from our own soul connections?

I’m ready for us all to shine our brightest and I hope you are too!

XOXO,

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Safe to Be Seen: Turning on Your Light With Your Feminine Archetypes

Safe to Be Seen: Turning on Your Light With Your Feminine Archetypes

Are you ready to be seen so you can make an impact and be visible (finally!)?

If some part of us is hiding, no amount of trying will get our message out into the world… 

 

and I know you have a message worth being heard.

It’s why I created this guided meditation – born from my asking my guides how to help spiritual entrepreneurs be seen. Not only seen, but feel supported, held, and feel more confident in trusting their soul’s voice WHILE reducing the egoic interference that loves to keep us hidden (it feels safer to your ego!).

This guided Soul Journey meditation, was born from one-on-one sessions with clients. I found a common theme among the women I was working with…a fear of being seen. It wasn’t obvious, no.

It was a hidden obstacle that so many of us are feeling. Wanting to spread our message but having to be seen on social media, have our name in ‘neon lights’ for the world to see, and feeling exposed to criticism on a whole other level. When I allowed Intuitive Guidance to come through for them, this meditation is what I was shown and I’ve been using it ever since.

For the first time I am making this special meditation available outside of my private sessions.

Nicole’s “safe to be seen” meditation was so amazing!

It helped me when I was trying to make changes, and a lot of my old really powerful stories of my core wounds came up. This meditation really helped me clear my blocks and walked me step by step to tap into my own inner guidance and my highest self in such a clear way. Every time I listened I felt grounded and nourished.

Rini York

Astrologer. Healer. Mystic. Guide., Ascension, Activation & Ancestral Healing

A Soul Journey…

This guided soul-journey meditation takes you to meet four of your feminine archetypes and gain wisdom from the part of you who knows how to support you best…Your Higher Self!

It’s not me giving you answers, it’s me holding space for you to hear your own answers…the ones that have been inside you all along and are right there waiting for you.

Get this Soul Journey guided meditation to meet with your Maiden, Mother, Wild Woman, and Crone Feminine Archetypes.

Discover what they’ve been waiting to share with you as I take you on a meditative journey to the four pools at the White Spring in Glastonbury, England. Get in touch with your innocent, mothering, wild and wise parts of you, in this gentle way.

Capture the wisdom!

Be sure to have a paper and pen handy to capture the insight and save it so you can refer back to it. Do this meditation as many times as you want as it offers different answers each time you do it, or you can just relax and enjoy the music and calm.

I hope you enjoy this meditation as much as I enjoyed creating it.

 

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Who I am…

Over 10 years ago I felt my higher self tapping on my shoulder telling me “Time to wake up Nicole and help others do the same”. I mean, what the what??? On paper, I looked like an Orange County Soccer Mom – I just needed a minivan (no offense to minivans, lol). I had built a corporate career, recently completed my MBA and was all set to work in an office for the rest of my life.

Except… except the part where I knew in my heart of hearts that I had some magical connection to writing.

What happened next was a journey of discovery as I explored writing only to ultimately discover that I needed to be a damn good entrepreneur to have a the life I wanted. The one where I could set my own hours, have the ability to support my creativity, and the gift of time to write. Now I help other healers, lightworkers, soul-led entrepreneurs to shine their lights and be visible.

Coming out of the spiritual closet isn’t easy, but LIFE is so much easier when we use our gifts instead of put them on a shelf and pretend they don’t exist.

This guided meditation is here to help you take those steps to clear your energy and be more visible to your soul clients. They are waiting for your help. They need you!

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