The word “Authentic” comes up quite frequently these days, especially with regards to Spiritual Entrepreneurs and their online presence.
People are craving authentic-ness over “professional” or impersonal. Which makes sense, right? We are being fed such a steady stream of customized ads and click-bait titles that it IS really nice to connect with people who feel genuine.
But writing authentically, IMHO, isn’t as easy as it sounds. Not because you want to trick people or be someone you are not, but for several other reasons.
I’m assuming with this blog post that I’ve attracted the voices and the writers who want to be seen and heard in their truest form, over someone is who trying to be authentic just to make a quick buck.
While I have nothing against making money, the purpose of this blog post is to help those of you who are wanting to make soul connections to your soul audience, but something is blocking you OR you find it feels hard to be vulnerable and seen.
Your authentic voice is there, waiting for you and this post can help you.
What keeps you from your authentic writing voice?
Before I share the best energy clearing hacks to connect to your authentic writing voice, I want to talk about what needs to be cleared.
Several things keep your authentic voice elusive and when you shine awareness on them it can help to dissolve the obstacles to it.
The first one is fear.
There are so many reasons to feel fear when you are writing a book, an article, a blog post, your social media posts – the world is pretty dang JUDGEY right now.
It’s so easy to sit home in your pajamas and comment on what other people are doing in negative ways and many are doing just that (see: I got my first hater and it made me smile all day).
But I don’t actually think that’s the real fear most of us experience. I think this goes back to the “burning times” where millions of people suspected to be witches were tortured and burned often just for using a simple herb for a stomachache.
I mean geez! If your crops grew and your neighbor’s crops didn’t – they said you were a witch.
The current cancel culture and hater brigades feel a lot like the witch hunts to me and it can make it feel scary to put your words out there, even on an unconscious level.
But put them out you must if that’s your path because otherwise, you will end up playing small and not fulfilling your dharma.
Here’s the good news! When you clear your energy before you write and connect to your authentic writing voice, you can stand behind your words.
These are NOT just things you will have written for no reason or that you are unsure about, no. It will be pure content that you believe in.
That way if a hater does come along or you receive a negative comment you can feel confident that you did your best and you were TRUE to yourself.
And you are just as important as anyone else!
Ego
Your ego will often get in the way of your authentic writing voice. It’s afraid of change, channeling, and anything that feels different.
Your ego is here to protect you and believe me, going online and putting your words out into the world feels anything but safe.
And that ego is great at sounding like your higher self and higher guidance! It’s the one that wants you to make everything perfect, professional, and tie it up neatly in a bow.
Then perfect it again, and again… until maybe it never even makes it out into the public’s view. That feels much better to your ego if it’s not ever seen.
We’ve all felt the “too perfect” sales pages where everything looks right but something keeps you from taking the action to sign up, right?
Often the energy is off. The alignment isn’t there because that person was in the perfection of the page instead of the heart of it. I’m sure their ego LOVED the page that looked pretty, took up a lot of time, and then didn’t convert so that person would go back to doing what they were doing before.
Yes… your ego is happy to keep you small and inauthentic because soul-to-soul contact is much more vulnerable and scary!
“Shoulds”
This is similar to what I mentioned about the ego but different in the sense that this usually comes from teachers and online courses.
You may write a beautiful and heartfelt sales page that you feel showcases your creative projects perfectly, but then you edit it to death based on a sales page template you bought that is supposed to be “high converting”.
Or you write a blog post and let it flow, but then edit it the way you remember your English Professor wanted things and it no longer sounds relatable.
How you write authentically, and what you “should” do, are not the same (see: Forget the rules when it comes to Authentic Writing).
And while I do believe there are ways to make your sales page have higher conversion, blog posts have a flow that readers have come to expect, and your emails to have a higher open rate – if it doesn’t SOUND like you and FEEL like you it won’t connect.
It just won’t.
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How do I know if I’m writing “authentically”?
When you are writing authentically, I believe it has a feel to it. I often experience an energetic high after the things floating in my head come out in an aligned and understandable way.
I think of it like the singer that gives you goosebumps. They’ve connected to their higher self in that moment and are channeling through the magic and you can feel it.
Writing is the same.
When you are aligned you know it.
But to make sure it happens more often than not, I’m sharing energy clearing hacks to help you connect to your authentic voice (not your fear, ego, or past professor’s rules) and make sure you are a clear channel when you write.
Here are the best energy clearing hacks to help you write more authentically:
Before you even start clearing yourself, make sure your space is clear.
I invite you to look at your writing space. Is it cluttered?
Physically clean your space (dust, vacuum, wipe down your desk and monitor/laptop screen) and put away anything that can be distracting.
Since I write daily, every Sunday night I clean my desk and put away any papers I no longer need, throw away old post-it notes and look at my manifestation wall to see if I manifested anything that is ready to come down and be replaced.
You won’t believe what a difference just cleaning your space can make!
Next, open a window!
If you can open a window before you write, I highly recommend it. Getting stagnant energy out and being able to get fresh air is so helpful (see: THIS post if you can’t open a window and want to clear your space).
I open my window every single day, rain or shine, to keep the energy from piling up. It does wonders!
Get outdoors to write notes (or bring your laptop!)
If you can write some notes outdoors, it’s a great place to connect to your authentic voice. Especially if you can get barefoot and put your feet on the ground.
Taking a walk and letting your mind roam and clear is also a great way to prepare for writing authentically.
After walking you can head straight to your writing feeling recharged and clear-headed.
I often hear what I’m going to write on my walks and then come home and it practically writes itself.
Energetically Clear Your Space
It’s a great idea to clear your space with Sage, Palo Santo, or this Frankincense and Myrrh incense that is my personal fav (if you can’t open a window or use smoke see this post).
Set the intention that your space is cleansed and cleared and is a sacred space for writing.
Then burn the item of your choice and allow the smoke to permeate your space.
You don’t need much! Just a small amount will do and make sure you’ve put it out completely, or rested it in something fireproof, before you begin.
With your space nice and clear, it’s time to clear yourself!
Here is where it’s important to clear fear out of your energetic space. If it helps, I often remind myself that at this point we’re writing and don’t even have to publish it. That takes the pressure off so I can just write without expectation.
Later, you can support the parts of you who are afraid when you publish your words, but for now, you want to connect to your authentic voice and feel/hear what it sounds like.
A simple way to clear your energy is to imagine drops of light coming down like rain all around you. (I have guided meditation in Intuitive Automatic Writing 101 if you want support).
See the drops of light cleansing the energy all around you and washing out of your home. You don’t want to just dump it in your space, instead see it flow out and turn to gold, or green, or something beneficial the earth can absorb.
Once your energy is cleansed on the outside, you can imagine the light coming down like a column, entering through your crown, coming behind your eyes, throat, down through your body, and all the way out your feet.
When the light comes out of your feet into the ground, imagine roots are being formed to keep you grounded and secure.
With your energy cleansed internally and externally, imagine you are in a bubble of light, like Glenda the good witch in the Wizard of Oz.
This light bubble will keep your energy clear as you write. If you are having an unusually tricky day with your energy, you can imagine the edges of your bubble are pokey to keep away any unwanted energy so you can connect to your authentic writing voice undisturbed.
From there you can write away!
This should keep your ego feeling comfortable too, but when you are done writing you’ll want to remember to cleanse your energy once again using the same process with the drops of light, a column of light, and an energy bubble.
Then I like to talk to my ego. Let it know it’s safe and that we’re OK. You may tune in to your body and see what your ego wants to feel secure. To sit and watch a show? Eat an earthy meal? Sit outside? Honor that.
Once your ego feels you do this several times it will get comfortable. It will know “Oh, this is how we write and it was OK yesterday, the day before and the day before…”
Write authentically, support the emotions that may arise with it such as fear, your ego, and the desire to make things too perfect and you will be surprised at what you can create.
I often find my authentic voice has more insight than I normally have and feels comforting.
Let me know how your authentic voice feels to you in the comments. I’d love to know! Feel free to leave a link to a blog post where you’ve shared your authentic words.
Happy writing!
XOXO,
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There is a space where magic and soul alignment happen – and it isn’t in your everyday same old, same old routine.
It’s in the “extra” that you do where the magic happens. Which means, you can’t skip that part if you want to experience synchronicity and manifestation that is so aligned it can leave you speechless!
In order to explain what I mean by “extra” and magic, I need to go back to the place where I first had that insight. It was while I was in the middle of creating a new digital product, 10 weeks into quarantine, with two kids and a husband home all day (all of us going a little stir cray!).
There was a lot to be done to keep two boys active, not in front of electronics all day and keep up with my work while my husband kept up with his work, not to mention the fear and uncertainty we were experiencing.
The reason I’m sharing this is that I KNOW it would’ve been much easier to focus on the deadlines for clients that I had on my plate and let the new creation fall by the waste side. Much easier.
My whole spiritual awakening and path I’ve consistently had that thought – “It would be much easier if I just led a ‘normal’ life and didn’t have these big dreams that required all this extra!”
I bet you feel this sometimes too.
🤷 What if where I am was just enough and I didn’t need to push for more?
🤷 What if I just saved the energy I use for meditation, writing, spiritual growth, creating, implementing, and growing – then I’d have more time for everything else?
🤷 What if I didn’t aspire to my idea of financial freedom and just earned it the good old-fashioned way trading time for money?
But I think for so many of us that’s like saying “Why bother eating and sleeping?”
We keep going because something in our soul pushes us forward.
Something calls to us and says “You have to tell people about this!” “You have to create this” and it stays on our minds until we bring it into its physical manifestation, however that looks for you.
It’s why we show up on FB Lives when it makes us nervous.
It’s why we spend hours taping ourselves, failing at new products that people didn’t buy or services that weren’t understood the first 20 times we offered them.
Especially because when someone does get it, experiences what we have to offer and we make that connection – it feels so good to know that we are carrying out our vision!
Our soul, our higher self, our spiritual guides – they know our dreams and visions and what we want for ourselves and in those little extras that we do, it allows it to come in.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not giving you a prescription for burnout… but I’m sharing that I think the most soul growth happens in the EXTRA.
So that extra is ANYTHING but extra. It’s the inspiration, the passion, the creativity, the reason for being. It’s everything.
If you’re feeling it’s not worthwhile, not worth pursuing, I wanted you to have this reminder that you that you can take your time… but just don’t give up.
Try not to think of it as extra, because every baby step matters.
Nurture your seeds and be gentle with them as you adjust to whatever challenges are showing up for you right now.
I hope you’re all answering those soul callings even if it’s a slow burn instead of a big leap.
It can be done! I’m seeing it happen.
If you’re unsure of your path and how to Co-Create it with the universe, a great way to begin is to try my FREE 2-Minute Energy Clearing Ritual for Writing. It’s easy to implement, you’ll memorize it in no time and you can begin to feel the difference between clear and protected energy versus energetic interference. It’s a great first step!
I’d love to hear what your “Extra” is, that thing that keeps pulling you back, in the comments. Claim it!
XoXo,
Over the years I’ve come to understand that when we are soul-aligned, synchronicities happen more frequently, abundance feels easier, and manifesting in general happens more quickly.
But “Soul Alignment” is one of those terms that can feel loaded or leave you thinking “That sounds good, but what does it even mean?” In order to explain it, I want to share a real-life example with you so you can see what this looks like on a micro-level.
The best way to do that is to tell you about a conversation I had with a client in a Breakthrough Session and what happened within 24 hours! It’s such validation that when you create Soul Alignment synchronicity becomes the norm!
No, she didn’t make a million dollars suddenly or win the lottery (those people tend to lose the money anyway!). Instead, she validated that she can feel aligned and have clients show up OUT OF NOWHERE. Which is pretty cool, right?
Looking at what’s true for you…
We were discussing social media and the “need” to be on Tik Tok. She had been in a mentoring group where they talked about how powerful Tik Tok is (and I’m sure it can be!) but that she just wasn’t feeling it.
I tuned into her higher guidance to feel out whether this was a visibility block or something else. And oooohhhh… the guidance showed me this message:
“What if you don’t?” “What if you don’t outsource your social media (something she was considering), what if you don’t spend all the hours on it either, and only do Tik Tok if/when it feels good to you?”
What if… you only show up on social media when you feel excited about it and really connected to your message? Would it be more POWERFUL?
You see, what I’ve witnessed for myself and my clients is this “need” to show up for social media (that all the marketing gurus say we have to do) ends up depleting our energy if it isn’t being received and translated to some sort of real connection.
When you are putting yourself out there, if you’re not receiving an energetic exchange, it can actually drain your energy.
As Spiritual Entrepreneurs and Mindful Business Owners, you’ve likely encountered this idea of energetic exchanges. But if you haven’t yet, it’s the idea that everything in life has this balance. If you put out your energy and give to a charity, for example, if it feels amazing to you, it’s a balanced energy exchange. If you write a blog post, or create a video, and you feel great about it – it’s a balanced energy exchange.
But if you feel you have to show up on social media three times a day, every day and it’s feeling uncomfortable, like too much work, like it’s going nowhere – then it’s NOT a balanced energy exchange.
And in the imbalance is where the burnout happens my spiritual friends.
It’s true that sometimes you are fully aligned and connecting with your audience and it DOES feel amazing.
But often, instead, it feels exhausting. And I’ve tried the schedulers and batching content when I’m “in the mood” but it still has felt so blah to me.
So I personally stopped showing up unless I’m feeling powerful and completely aligned and you know what? My results have been better with less effort.
Or I should say, the effort goes to me being fully aligned and in my power instead of “shoulding” because I think I have to.
Which is why I wanted to share a real-life example with you from my client (with her permission of course), Rini York.
As I said, we talked about putting her content and herself out there ONLY when she felt soul-aligned and like it’s a “hell yes”.
Then, she told me the WiFi sucks in her newly manifested home! She has these great readings she does over zoom but she’s trying to get her WiFi to support them. Ugh… that’s a real problem if you’re running an online business so it was time to be creative.
And it came through in a flash – “What if you offer a written year ahead reading?” We’re close to the new year and it’s so helpful when you know how to utilize your energy with the celestial guidance of the stars. (I don’t know about you, but I’ve had astrology readings where I came away overwhelmed and didn’t know how to keep it all straight so having a month-by-month guide seems like it would be so helpful.)
She got excited about this and said that offering the year ahead reading felt good to her and guess freaking what???
The next day I got a message from her that someone texted her asking if she offered this.
Let me repeat that! She thought of an offer that felt soul-aligned and possible in her new home and before she could even create a sales page for it, someone asked her if she offered it. When she said “yes,” they said “Great. Where do I sign up?”
She didn’t even have a way for her to sign up yet!!!
That is the best when you’re creating the payment page for people who already want to buy!
It’s the magic of soul alignment. I know I throw out those words and they sound good, but I wanted to give you a real-life example of what I mean by that. Because it’s a real thing!
When you can clear the clutter, take fear and self-sabotage out of the equation and align with what your soul wants for you, it makes the rest feel simpler.
As spiritual entrepreneurs and mindful business owners we need as much ease and flow in our biz as we can get. I have seen way too many burned out healers who started out so passionate, completely embodying their gifts, and witnessed them burnout or return to the dreaded unaligned 9 to 5 (Noooooo!!!!).
You have to get in alignment so your energy knows where to go and is always in an energetic exchange.
It doesn’t have to be complex. You can get simple and ask yourself “Does this feel good to me?” “Do I believe in this?” “Do I feel empowered right now or do I feel like I HAVE to do this?”
This small shift in your mindset for your business, and even your career, can reap great magic.
Try it and let me know how it goes.
If you want help getting that soul alignment, there are two ways I can help you.
- Soul Align and Shine Breakthrough Sessions
- 1:1 Soul Alignment Foundation Building for when you’re ready to create the foundation YOUR success story is built on.
When you are soul-aligned, your energy will naturally go to the places that have the greatest return on your energetic investment. Your consciousness will go freaking get people just like Rini’s did!
The best part is, that once this happened, she was able to create social media posts and videos about this new offer. Her soul likely wasn’t aligned before because it knew that the WiFi problem needed to be sorted out before she could welcome that many zoom readings and needed another way to connect with people.
When you’re feeling blocked, there’s a reason. And the good news is when you take time to tune in there’s always another solution!
Let me know what you are doing to get into alignment and how it’s feeling for you. I’d love to hear from you in the comments.
Xoxo,
If you’d like to see the sales page Rini created and her offer, you can find it HERE. I’m so proud to say that before we were working together Rini struggled with sales pages and being clear in her offers and look! But now, she can whip up a page in no time that feels good and people understand what’s being offered.
Ugh… Can I just say that through a majority of my awakening as I peel back the layers and heal the shadows I find that I’m hiding SOME part of me?
Especially when it comes to being an entrepreneur, and most specifically when it comes to digital marketing – so frustrating!!!
When you’re marketing yourself, writing copy for your products or courses, that’s where you need to dig deep and be SUPER clear about who you are and what you’re selling.
And the thing is, for clients I do this very well and can completely connect to the transformation they’re offering and the thing that makes them unique.
But for myself?
Well, I think I’m putting it all out there only to discover that I am very sneakily sabotaging myself on an unconscious level.
Hiding my “woo” with words that people don’t quite understand so they don’t see the FULL real me online.
If you know me in “real life”, you will know that I’m very open about my passion for energy healing, healing with foods, and all things “woo” because I have this strong belief that there’s always another way for everything. Everything!
I use my intuition as a guide for my life and my family and it’s usually pretty spot on! It landed me in my dream house during a pandemic, has allowed abundance into our lives, and has helped me through unexplainable fatigue I had for years.
BUT, when it comes to being an online entrepreneur and digital marketing, I discovered that I stuck to some belief or way of doing things that held me back, without even realizing it!
And each time I fully believe it’s because some part of me was scared of being seen.
OR, some part of me did not feel WORTHY of being seen.
I’d love to say that I came from a happy and stable childhood, but that just wasn’t the case. And while I often feel I must overcome the poverty mindset I grew up with, I’m slowly learning it’s something else.
I often do not feel worthy.
As I’m saying it, it definitely doesn’t feel good to write it because it strikes such a chord with me.
My parents did not have TIME for me. My Dad was often busy with his shiny new family and my Mom reached a point in single motherhood where it did not seem she enjoyed being a mom.
In fact, it was like my sister and I were just suddenly on our own to feed ourselves, come up with money, and get ourselves where we needed to go.
She was TIRED and listening to me and giving me attention was not something she had the energy or desire to do.
And it has stuck with me.
Though she and I ended with a much better relationship… it has affected my entrepreneurial journey.
I recently completed a 5-Day Detox (I’ll tell you about how clearing the physical body moves these layers later!) and this layer of unworthiness showed up for healing.
When I was done, I realized something very specific about my online biz. I’ve spent so much time talking about “Intuitive” writing when it turns out, my clients and the people who connect with me were looking for something more.
I kept holding on to the same idea over and over because I liked it, but it seriously felt like I was shouting into a windy tunnel where no one could hear me.
People often said “I feel like I’m meant to work with you but I don’t want to write”. And I felt like I was meant to work with them but kept thinking the same thing over and over – which kept my biz small.
People NOT understanding you keeps you safe and small (even if that isn’t what you want!).
I wasn’t tuning in to what people wanted most from me and how I could BEST help them.
Over and over I was learning that people were not searching the term “intuitive writing” and over and over I kept trying to explain it. But if SEO is a big part of my strategy… using a term google shows people aren’t looking up? Well, that’s a much harder path than answering questions people are searching for.
But Intuitive Writing felt safer to me. And ultimately, it means I was putting myself out there but NOT being seen.
With social media, when you lack clarity you are basically HIDING IN PLAIN SIGHT.
Whew… it was heavy to see this for myself, but once you know something like this it allows you to move forward. Hold the little Nicole who wasn’t seen and wasn’t heard and give her what she needs.
In THIS POST on “Does it feel safe to be seen in your biz?” I share more about some other reasons you may discover you’re hiding without even knowing it.
And I hope you offer yourself grace if you find this out about yourself too.
If you find that you’ve been working so hard at something and self-sabotaging it too, give yourself grace!
Stressing about the results of a failed launch or wondering why people don’t understand what you’re saying… only to find there was a better way to say it (if only you had been ready to EMBODY it). Well, it happens and it’s seriously part of the journey of an entrepreneur.
The thing is, the truth comes to you when you are ready to receive it. When you are asking why you are stuck and you are ready to hear the answer and move forward.
That’s why we find these things out layer by layer as they are brought to us for healing.
We’re supposed to hit walls and barriers so we know where we need to grow.
So from now on, you’ll hear my talk about being an Intuitive Biz Consultant because I help spiritual entrepreneurs attract their clients to them by being clear and VISIBLE. I help them NOT hide in plain sight. And whereas writing is my beautiful tool, they can use video, social media, live appearances – anything that works for THEM.
Because I KNOW I’m here on this planet to serve my soul clients and help them create more ease and peace in their businesses. But when they couldn’t find me, I felt sad and got stuck in a spiral where I used to second guess all my social media and marketing. And there are much better uses for our energy than that!
Showing up, being seen, it allows your people to find you – thank goodness!
I’d love to hear from you. Have you discovered some way that you thought you were putting yourself out there only to find out you weren’t? Lmk if this has happens to you too!
We don’t always know we’re playing small. It starts with those statements like “I know I should be creating an eCourse,” or “I know I’m supposed to be writing.” Even “I’ve been meaning to update my website.”
But for some reason you aren’t creating it, writing it, or updating your website to better represent you.
And WHO is telling you that you should be doing it anyway?
Likely it’s your Higher Self and your Soul’s Voice alerting you to these creative ideas, these inspiring ideas that are an answer to YOUR questions. Your questions like:
🤔 “How can I free myself up to spend time on things I’m passionate about?”
🤔 “How can I fulfill my life’s purpose?”
🤔 “How can I better serve?”
We often ask the universe or our guides for help, get an answer, and then say “I know I should be doing X” but something makes us feel VERY hesitant about doing it.
We ask, get an inspiring idea/vision/response in return, but something holds us back.
There’s good reason you have inspiring ideas but stop yourself from taking action.
It’s often fear, your Ego, and even past life energy flowing in to make it feel much scarier than it should feel.
It causes us to wear of cloak of invisibility that we don’t even know we are wearing.
Has this happened to you? This knowing you are meant to do something? That feeling that if you did it, it would help you on your path?
Our fears and our egos are no small force to be reckoned with.
They can put obstacles to “protect” us where we didn’t even know there could be obstacles.
When I first started my book, freak accidents kept happening with my computer to wipe out the words. I even invested in a good back up drive and something happened to THAT and it became encrypted in such a way that it will cost me two thousand dollars to see those words again (bye bye words!).
Thankfully, once I learned to work with my ego, my higher self and my soul – I began to see progress. I began to feel the safety of writing and communicating my “woo” in a way that I hadn’t experienced before.
I was able to stop self-sabotaging on the unconscious level by bringing awareness to it. Shining light on it.
And most importantly, learning how to put self-care and self-love as a priority.
Because if I shine my light, it extends out and gives permission for others to shine theirs too.
Your gifts can’t reach your audience if you are playing small. If you are wearing a cloak of invisibility and aren’t even aware of it!
Self-sabotaging without even knowing it or letting the fear stop you is such a roadblock to your dreams (been there!🙋).
It takes some awareness, some energy healing, but you can do it!
I know it’s in there and you are ready to let it out. Gently, with ease and with grace.
So what is it? What “should” you be doing? Are you ready to claim it?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments or you can tag me with an image of you stepping out of the shadows on IG @thewritingmedium.
